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fuckyeahethnicwomen:

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wee1:

feministstiles:

stormbreaker-mario:

zeherili:

I am so done with white people wearing bindis. Do white people even understand the significance of a bindi? If you do understand the significance but choose to blatantly ignore it, then congratulations for ignoring cultural appropriation and for looking like the white trash you are.

calm the fuck down eh? theres also a thing to be said about you know, to have the right to wear whatever you want? and so long as shes not doing anything disrespectful, like shooting a porno in that, why dont you settle the fuck down and shut up.
oh and btw, a bindi is not restricted to one religion or region. so why dont you just shut up thank you. 

you literally have no fucking authority to speak over a culture that isn’t yours. take your head out of your slimy racist ass and unfollow me.

listen up you schneider’s wiener
as long as brown people are discriminated against and seen as backward for wearing a cultural and yes, a religious item that WE have created and WE have given significance, it is NOT okay for non-brown people to wear it. it’s called cultural appropriation.

hey tumblr just fyi this is a picture of vanessa hudgens who i’m like 99% sure is a multi-racial woman of color (she definitely is not white)? like people who aren’t southeast asian shouldn’t be wearing bindhis period, but ignoring the fact that she’s a woman of color and using her as a poster child for white people misappropriating things is really fucking awful

wow thank you like yes she shouldn’t be wearing a bindi but vanessa hudgens is NOT white
stop

whatsup. hudgen’s isn’t white, this still isn’t okay. i’m south asian. i’d love to rock this look. i love it. but the second i do, people are going to be asking me if i can speak english, isn’t this country too cold for me? you look like princess jasmine (even though she is not south asian…)
should that prevent me from doing so? no, but that’s not really my point, is it?
it’s the same in any event, no matter the skin colour. mass consumption of other people’s cultures, “eating the other,” without the associated political ramifications.
“…the commodification of difference promotes paradigms of consumption wherein whatever difference the Other inhabits is eradicated,via exchange, by a consumer cannibalism that not only displaces the Other but denies the significance of that Other’s history through a process of decontextualization…contemporary notions of ‘crossover’ expand the parameters of cultural production to enable the voice of the non-white Other to be heard by a larger audience even as it denies the specificity of that voice, or as it recoups it for its own use.” (373)
“The over-riding fear is that cultural, ethnic, and racial differences will be continually commodified and offered up as new dishes to enhance the white palate – that the Other will be eaten, consumed, and forgotten.” (380)
also: Unintentionally Eating the Other, bell hooks
edit: the bindi is not always religious. i’m bengali, bangladeshi- it’s cultural. more of a fashion item these days. but that does not mean it’s not signficant. (we call it a “tip,” although i’m not sure that’s the right spelling. it’s bangla, anyway, so whatever.)

fuckyeahethnicwomen:

friarpark:

danidandidaneee:

wee1:

feministstiles:

stormbreaker-mario:

zeherili:

I am so done with white people wearing bindis. Do white people even understand the significance of a bindi? If you do understand the significance but choose to blatantly ignore it, then congratulations for ignoring cultural appropriation and for looking like the white trash you are.

calm the fuck down eh? theres also a thing to be said about you know, to have the right to wear whatever you want? and so long as shes not doing anything disrespectful, like shooting a porno in that, why dont you settle the fuck down and shut up.

oh and btw, a bindi is not restricted to one religion or region. so why dont you just shut up thank you. 

you literally have no fucking authority to speak over a culture that isn’t yours. take your head out of your slimy racist ass and unfollow me.

listen up you schneider’s wiener

as long as brown people are discriminated against and seen as backward for wearing a cultural and yes, a religious item that WE have created and WE have given significance, it is NOT okay for non-brown people to wear it. it’s called cultural appropriation.

hey tumblr just fyi this is a picture of vanessa hudgens who i’m like 99% sure is a multi-racial woman of color (she definitely is not white)? like people who aren’t southeast asian shouldn’t be wearing bindhis period, but ignoring the fact that she’s a woman of color and using her as a poster child for white people misappropriating things is really fucking awful

wow thank you like yes she shouldn’t be wearing a bindi but vanessa hudgens is NOT white

stop

whatsup. hudgen’s isn’t white, this still isn’t okay. i’m south asian. i’d love to rock this look. i love it. but the second i do, people are going to be asking me if i can speak english, isn’t this country too cold for me? you look like princess jasmine (even though she is not south asian…)

should that prevent me from doing so? no, but that’s not really my point, is it?

it’s the same in any event, no matter the skin colour. mass consumption of other people’s cultures, “eating the other,” without the associated political ramifications.

  • “…the commodification of difference promotes paradigms of consumption wherein whatever difference the Other inhabits is eradicated,via exchange, by a consumer cannibalism that not only displaces the Other but denies the significance of that Other’s history through a process of decontextualization…contemporary notions of ‘crossover’ expand the parameters of cultural production to enable the voice of the non-white Other to be heard by a larger audience even as it denies the specificity of that voice, or as it recoups it for its own use.” (373)
  • “The over-riding fear is that cultural, ethnic, and racial differences will be continually commodified and offered up as new dishes to enhance the white palate – that the Other will be eaten, consumed, and forgotten.” (380)

also: Unintentionally Eating the Other, bell hooks

edit: the bindi is not always religious. i’m bengali, bangladeshi- it’s cultural. more of a fashion item these days. but that does not mean it’s not signficant. (we call it a “tip,” although i’m not sure that’s the right spelling. it’s bangla, anyway, so whatever.)

(Source: vanessahudgennsss)

ourtimeorg:

Have a safe saturday night!

ourtimeorg:

Have a safe saturday night!

Ten Women I Have Been Warned Against Becoming:

1. The Girl Who Takes Up Too Much Space, always, her shoulders too wide in stairwells, her hips too big in doorways, her voice too loud in classes. This woman does not understand the art of crumbling, of curling herself tight like the spiral of a fern, soft, delicate, unwilling to reach out the ivy of her fingers to grasp onto what should rightfully be hers. This is a beast, an elephant, a moving mountain and she is capable of flattening you, she is capable of ruining you, she is capable of making you feel as small and insignificant in her life as she is supposed to be. You are this woman’s footnote to history, you are her side note in song lyrics, you are constantly interrupted by her with a witty joke you wish you thought of. I asked what the problem was with being a steamroller instead of a sunflower and I was laughed down.

2. The Beautiful One, the long hair or the slim waist or the pretty eyes or the lips like bowstrings. This woman looks good in everything because she’s confident in whatever you put her in. She’ll cut her hair short on you no matter how you like it, she’ll wear high heels and step on your opinions, she’ll look hot as hell no matter what size she is. See, the reason you can’t trust her is because women like this don’t need your permission, they’ll do as they please and get away with it. They’ll say no to you, over and over. Teach your daughters that beautiful means dangerous, teach them to distrust women who love themselves. Equate beautiful with vapid, equate pretty with stupid, take their power from them. Say they’re vain for their makeup, refuse to see them without it. These women are snakes, they are serpents. I said maybe the problem lies with you being unable to control yourself and was told to get off my pedestal.

3. A Bitch. Women are supposed to be ladies in the street but will tear skin under sheets. I’m told: Never raise your voice. Speak gently. Submit. Hold your opinion against your lips and when you admit to it, make sure it comes out as a butterfly wing suggestion. Don’t disagree. Don’t undermine someone else’s authority, regardless of whether or not they deserve your respect. Someone touches you, just move away from them. Don’t hit. Don’t talk back. Be like the ruins of Rome, only beautiful if you can’t hear your quiet death.

4. The Needy One. I have heard how others spit when they talk about how she gave you everything and you shoved it back down her throat until she choked on it, until she came back crawling and asked you what she did, until her palms and knees were scraped for want of just a little affection - never be this woman, I’m told, because she’s a joke and the joke is that she dared to have more emotion than you did. The truth is, I’m told, the one who cares less in a partnership is the one who wins. I didn’t know this was a competition.

5. The Cock Tease, certified stripper, how dare that girl look like that and not want me to sleep with her. Lust is always personified as a lady in red with a dress slit up her thigh. Lust is sinful because it’s power, it’s not asking for attention - it’s demanding it. I’m told she is the worst kind of woman, that looking good is supposed to be some kind of shame on her kin. I’m told not to leave the house in such a short skirt, not with a shirt so low, not with a lace back, not with high heels, not dressed like that. My lipstick can’t be too red, my hair can’t be too mussed, I can’t just “turn someone on like that and then leave them wanting.” I mentioned that instant gratification actually ruins our psyche and was told that being led on was “exhausting.” I said that there was a difference between purposefully tricking someone into liking you and just being attractive or friendly. I was told there’s also a difference between coffee and tea but both result in caffeine. I said, “I’ve been turned on in class by the girls I talk to but I didn’t expect anything from them,” and they said, “It’s different, you’re not a man,” but couldn’t explain where that difference was.

6. A Slut, obviously ruined by another person’s touch. It doesn’t matter how many people she’s actually been with, it’s all about the rumors she carries with her. Easy. Harlot. You’ll still try to get with her, you’ll still take her into your bed and kiss her and say things you don’t mean - but you’ll defame her name when you talk to your buddies. My father used to say “A slut is fine for the night, but the virgin is who you take home and marry.” Maybe he didn’t know he was teaching his daughter to hate her sexuality. Maybe he didn’t know that every time she’d be kissed, her whole system would shake until she felt ready to combust, shame and self-hatred shivering against her spine. Maybe he didn’t know she’d disconnect emotions and sex because he always told her, “Boys are different, they won’t care about you.” Nobody said to her that it was okay to experiment. See, the funny thing is, I’m a dancer so I know exactly where my center of gravity is. I know how hard I’ll fall in each direction. Yet out of fear of getting hurt, I won’t let a single person inside of my bed.

7. The Soulmate. Never love romance more than you love being cynical. Never show weakness, never like pink, never think maybe you might find someone nice and settle down with them. Someone will find you, I was told, And if you’re lucky, he’ll put up with you when you start getting old. Never be the woman who believes in happily ever after, never be dumb enough to think maybe someone could love you after all of your mistakes. It has nothing to do with whether or not a family is important to you and you’re in a good place where a relationship would make your life better - you’re not a princess. You don’t get married, you settle.

8. The Girl With Strength, who can outrun everyone and who is stronger than her boyfriend. “See the thing about boys,” says my daddy, “Is that you have to let them win.” I sat at home and read stories about Artemis and wanted to become the huntress, too. I wanted to howl at the moon, I wanted to slay the beasts that bested me, I wanted to rule my kingdom with bloody fists. But girls are never athletes, never supposed to be “built,” regardless of the fact civilizations were constructed on our spines and we made homes in war by the steel of our ribs. Never be strong. We are supposed to wilt.

9. The Lady CEO: because if you choose work over family, are you really a girl? How dare you fight your way to the top through every pair of eyes that bore through your blouse, through every meeting where you were hushed by the sound of someone else talking, through every time someone called you “sweetie,” how dare you yearn for something. Is your husband the stay-at-home one? I can’t imagine how that is going. He’s not a real man, after all. I don’t give it long before the divorce. How dare you decide you’re happy being single. Don’t you know you’re supposed to bear children. Where is your honor? Where is your wisdom? Who cares if you are the leader, the best suited for your position, the quickest-thinking, the one who makes the hardest clients come back again. Don’t you see? Across history, women have been terrible at success. They always lose their man in the end. (When I said, “I would rather be a famous author than a mediocre mother,” I was told, “No, don’t worry, you’ll be a fine mommy.”)

10. THE GIRL I AM: FIRECRACKER AND DON’T YOU FUCKING FORGET IT I’LL RIP YOU TO SHREDS AND I WON’T FUCKING REGRET IT I’M NOT YOUR PRETTY GIRL I’M NOT YOUR ANYTHING I’M PERFECT, MOTHERFUCKER, AND I’M NOT GOING TO GIVE UP WHAT I’M DOING. I DON’T WANT TO BE “LADYLIKE” THAT LITERALLY MEANS NOTHING I’M NOT GOING TO STOP STANDING UP AND DEMANDING WHAT’S COMING TO ME. I’M GONNA BE SOMEBODY. I’M GONNA MAKE THEM REMEMBER ME. I REFUSE TO BE OVERSHADOWED IN HISTORY. I DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WERE TRYING TO CREATE BUT YOU MADE ME A DRAGON YOU PUT ME IN THE FIRE AND WHEN I STOPPED BURNING I LEARNED HOW TO GLOW DON’T THINK YOU CAN STOP ME YOU CAN’T TAME A TORNADO.

In respectful response to a poem tilted, “Ten men women have warned me against becoming." /// r.i.d (via inkskinned)

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“One year my colleagues David and Carole were preparing a skit on abuse for a conference, and they decided to perform a rehearsal for their abuser group. Afterward, the group members rapid-fired their suggestions for improving the skit, directing them mostly at David: “No, no, you don’t make excuses for why you’re home late, that puts you on the defensive, you’ve got to turn it around on her, tell her you know she’s cheating on you….. You’re staying too far away from her, David. Take a couple of steps toward her, so she’ll know that you mean business…. You’re letting her say too much. You’ve got to cut her off and stick to your points.” The counselors were struck by how aware the clients were of the kinds of tactics they use, and why they use them: In the excitement of giving feedback on the skit, the men let down their facade as “out-of-control abuser who doesn’t realize what he’s doing.”
— “Why Does He Do That” by Lundy Bancroft (via bajo-el-mar)

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Anonymous asked: How about advice on how to study? I'm in my freshman year of high school and middle school DID NOT prepare me for all the studying I have to do- especially since I'm taking AP classes.

gurl:

Totally! Read this, this, this, and this for some excellent studying advice. Do it, gurl!

xoxo

gurl

halftheskymovement:

As Women’s History Month comes to a close, let us pause to reflect on nine things women in America can do in 2014 that they could not do in 1914:
1) Marry a foreigner and keep their citizenship.
2) Have equal access to job listings.
3) Seek damages for sexual harassment.
4) Lose a job or promotion because of pregnancy — or potential pregnancy.
Learn more via Huffington Post. 

halftheskymovement:

As Women’s History Month comes to a close, let us pause to reflect on nine things women in America can do in 2014 that they could not do in 1914:

1) Marry a foreigner and keep their citizenship.

2) Have equal access to job listings.

3) Seek damages for sexual harassment.

4) Lose a job or promotion because of pregnancy — or potential pregnancy.

Learn more via Huffington Post

“I’m starting to understand the real failings of multi-cultural education growing up in K-12 schools. We gave everyone access to the “fun” parts of culture. Let’s sing the dreidel song! Now we understand the Jewish experience. Let’s talk about segregation. Wasn’t that wrong. Aren’t we glad it’s over? Let’s take turns reading parts of the “I Have a Dream” speech. We had access to the easy stuff without having to really examine the hard stuff. And we were giving easy access to things that aren’t “ours” and shouldn’t be “ours.” So you can’t just pick up the “fun” stuff and put it into your party theme or Facebook pictures. I’m using simple terms like fun because that’s how multiculturalism was given to us as children. And while it may have served a purpose at the time, it gave us too much access to claim things that aren’t ours.

I honestly, honestly think that is some of the reasons why the race parties are such a horrible fad on college campuses. They are carrying on what we did in elementary school. Let’s make culture a party! Everyone bring your cultural food and put on a costume! The racism is present and good percentage of the participants are really expressing deep rooted racism. But some truly don’t want to “understand why it’s wrong” when they are re-enacting what we used to do with culture in elementary schools. Culture was supposed to be fun. “I don’t understand why you are mad now? I thought culture was a party!” Party’s over kids. Put down the head-dress.”
— Brian Henry (via theteej)

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kyrafic:

"Never did like that much," is a baller and superb way to express your irritation with the way the patriarchy refuses to acknowledge how badass you are.

kyrafic:

"Never did like that much," is a baller and superb way to express your irritation with the way the patriarchy refuses to acknowledge how badass you are.

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oldfilmsflicker:

The Punk Singer, 2013 (dir. Sini Anderson)

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